LOVE MEANS WE GIVE OUR SPOUSE THE RIGHT TO:
Space and Privacy
Be Different
Disagree
Good Day!
Another week is speeding past, and it is again time to mull over our study of “The Third Option!”
This past Monday, Doug & Michele wrapped up our discussion of “Re-Defining The Power Struggle.”
The attached “Conflict Resolution” sheet contains a list of 10 Strategies which should prove useful when a Conflict arises.
Remember: 1) “Conflict” is when what you want is incompatible with what I want;
& 2) That each couple will need to work this process out for themselves, while maintaining the goal of a “Win/Win.”
Still, these make a great starting point: If you consistently ignore them, you should stop and consider whether or not your “POWER” relationship is out of balance….
LOVE MEANS WE GIVE OUR SPOUSE THE RIGHT TO:
Be Heard
Be Taken Seriously
Be Given the Benefit of the Doubt
Be Told the Truth
During our 2nd Hour last week, Tony & Linda began the discussion of “Topic 5: Control Issues,” looking at the question of “Who is Driving My Life?” They will conclude “Control” this coming Monday (Feb 23), by having us consider “Where is My Control Center?”along with several other concepts.
HOMEWORK:
From Worksheet #5: Control Issues, think over (P O N D E R….) the questions under BOTH the “Self” AND “In Relation to My Spouse” sections. Some of these just might come up in discussion Monday.
(A copy of Worksheet #5: Control Issues is attached, along with the Annotated Notes for “Control”)
Have you set a GOAL for “Control Issues?” If so, What is it? Have you tried to reach it?
And, if NOT: Why Not? What is holding you back?
Honest Self-reflection is critical in this process – as is Practice, Practice, Practice……
LOVE MEANS WE GIVE OUR SPOUSE THE RIGHT TO:
Be Consulted
Be Imperfect and make Mistakes
Courteous and Honorable Treatment
“Couples Bill of Rights,” The Third Option
For our 2nd Hour this Monday, Reid & Marilyn will begin the discussion of “Topic 6: Listening Beyond the Words.”
“Communication” is one of the most frequently cited “problem areas” for couples – and (ENGAGED!) Listening is a vital component of effective communication: you won’t want to miss this important topic!
Have a Wonderful Weekend, and we’ll look forward to seeing you Monday evening!
Go with God –
Reid & Marilyn, Tony & Linda, and Doug & Michele
Tony & Linda: tdefelicejr@aol.com
Doug: dbk65@msn.com
Michele: m.koser@sbcglobal.net
Reid & Marilyn: kistler96@gmail.com
Marilyn: mgkistler@gmail.com
Reid: rdkistler@gmail.com
PS: We’ve also attached a Revised Study Schedule, reflecting the impact of the Snow Day on Feb 2!
But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness and self-control. Against such things there is no law. Those who belong to Christ Jesus have crucified the sinful nature with its passions and desires. Since we live by the Spirit, let us keep in step with the Spirit. Let us not become conceited, provoking and envying each other. – Galatians 5:22-26
Attachments
Topic #5 – Control Notes
Third Option Winter 2015 Schedule – Revised
Worksheet #5
Conflict Resolution