Greetings!
We trust that everyone is managing to stay WARM in the midst of another spell of Very Cold temperatures! At least we’ve not (yet…) had to battle a ton of snow.
Last Monday we dove into Topic #1: Building A Climate of Respect, looking at the Couples Bill of Rights, and the Imbalance that happens when we are either Overly Aggressive, or Too Passive – with Respectful Assertiveness being the point of Balance. (A copy of the Respect Notes Outline we passed out in class is attached)
Thanks to Six Brave Volunteers, we also saw a demonstration of 6 typical personal characteristics that either display Disrespect for Our Spouse, or a Lack of Self-Respect. The attached document “Sculpture Diagram” shows a Summary of these “Poses.”
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“Without Love, She Reacts Without Respect… Without Respect, He Reacts Without Love.”
– The Crazy Cycle (Dr. Emerson Eggerichs)
This Monday (Jan 19) we will wrap up our discussion of Topic #1: Building A Climate of Respect during our first hour, which will include a look at “I Statements,” along with the“Questions to Ponder” on the Topic #1 Worksheet that was handed out last week. (3rdOpt WS1.pdf – attached)
And don’t forget to consider the Goal you have set for yourself this week – (Of Course, EVERYONE did this at the end of class last Monday…) and decide what Practical Plans you can lay out to implement it!
During the second hour on Monday, Tony & Linda will begin the discussion of Topic #2: Responsibility and The Blame Game, which will further develop the concept of “I Statements,” and suggest some Solutions for two more ways we often find our lives – and our relationships – Out of Balance.
Each of the Topics in The Third Option is packed with useful information, and Tony & Linda manage to bring these out in ways that are both enlightening and entertaining!
THE BEGINNING OF THE END TO THE “CRAZY CYCLE” (Dr. Emerson Eggerichs)
Husband – Determine that your wife does not mean to be Disrespectful to you, that disrespect for you is not what she feels in the deepest part of her heart.
Remember this when she gets nasty or seems like she has nothing but contempt for you.
Wife – Determine that your Husband does not mean to be Unloving to you, that Love for you is what he feels in the deepest part of his heart.
Remember this when he gets nasty or seems like he does not love you at all.
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Reminder: We will refer back to the Note Outlines and Worksheet pages for each Topic – and, obviously, particularly so on the Monday following a Topic – so we encourage each of you to have something along the lines of a “Pocket Folder” to keep the handouts in – and, of course, to bring a Pen with you each week.
We trust you have had a wonderful week, and look forward to seeing everyone at 7 pm Monday evening!
Go with God –
Reid & Marilyn Kistler; Tony & Linda DeFelice; Doug & Michele Koser
Tony & Linda: tdefelicejr@aol.com
Doug: dbk65@msn.com
Michele: m.koser@sbcglobal.net
Reid & Marilyn: kistler96@gmail.com
Marilyn: mgkistler@gmail.com
Reid: rdkistler@gmail.com
CAN I BE RIGHT BUT WRONG AT THE SAME TIME? (Dr. Emerson Eggerichs)
Being right, but saying things in an unloving, harsh, loud, critical, or demeaning manner will never win over your spouse, even when they know you are right.
Do nothing out of selfish ambition or vain conceit, but in humility consider others better than yourselves. Each of you should look not only to your own interests, but also to the interests of others. – Philippians 2:3-4
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