If we claim to be without sin, we deceive ourselves and the truth is not in us. If we confess our sins, he is faithful and just and will forgive us our sins and purify us from all unrighteousness. – 1 John 1:8-9
Greetings –
We are nearing the end of the Winter 2015 study of “The Third Option.”
Last Monday we concluded Topic 12: “Feelings and The Hurt Spiral,” and then Doug & Michele began Topic 13: “Forgiveness and Repair.”
The Winter session will officially finish up over the next two Mondays, with the 2nd Hour of “Forgiveness” this Monday (April 20), followed by Topic 14: “Re-Building Trust,” which will conclude on April 27.
Logistical Notes:
1) We will once again offer a short “Best of The Third Option” series, scheduled to run from May 4 – Jun 8. (6 weeks, but only 5 classes, due to the Memorial Day holiday)
In essence, this is really a Continuation of the Winter study, as we intend to go deeper into topics we have previously covered, while also presenting some material that “The Third Option” provides as “Optional.” The “Best Of….” sessions tend to draw a somewhat smaller group. If that holds true, we hope to be able to lose the microphones, and run the study as more of a Small Group, at least for part of each evening.
2) If you MISSED last Monday – but are able to attend This Coming Monday (April 20), please come up & see us, either before class, or at the break:
a) We have a “Course Evaluation” that we would like you to fill out; and
b) We will also have a sheet that queries your (Potential) interest in the “Spring” session and our Proposed Topics, along with possible Small Group / Social Activities…………………………………………
Forgive us our debts, as we also have forgiven our debtors. And lead us not into temptation, but deliver us from the evil one.
For if you forgive men when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.
But if you do not forgive men their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins. – Matthew 6:12-15
Perhaps more than any other 3 Topic sequence in “The Third Option,” Topics 12 to 14 build tightly upon each other.
Last week we completed the discussion of Topic 12: “Feelings and The Hurt Spiral,” after which we began to look at Topic 13: “Forgiveness and Repair.” Doug & Michele will wrap up Topic 13 on Monday, and then Tony & Linda will complete the sequence with Topic 14: “Re-Building Trust,” which will carry over to April 27, the final evening of the “Winter 2015” session.
As usual, the Worksheet and Class Notes for Topic 13 are attached, along with “The Forgiveness Process,” and “Grief” from “The Third Option” materials.
In addition, a copy of “Bitterness vs. Forgiveness” is attached (from Ministering the Steps to Freedom in Christ).
This latter includes a Precise set of “directions,” including 3 Specific prayers, references to pertinent Bible passages, and some worthwhile Observations & Wisdom, including:
You don’t forgive someone for their sake; you do it for your own sake so you can be free. Your need to forgive isn’t an issue between you and the offender; it’s between you and God.
And, of course – and also As Usual – the “Questions to Ponder” on the Worksheet are deserving of at least a few minutes Reflection:
- For what do I need to ask Forgiveness?
- To whom – beyond my spouse – do I need to Apologize? (Or Seek Forgiveness From?)
- Am I “nursing” any Grudges? Have I allowed myself to Become Bitter over some “Wrong” – Intentional or Otherwise?
Within a Marriage, or other Significant Relationship, Forgiveness is a process that requires both parties to participate in – given the Third Option goal of Reconciliation. But even in circumstances where Reconciliation is not possible, we are still called to Forgive.
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We pray you have a Wonderful Weekend, and look forward to seeing everyone on Monday Evening.
Go with God –
Reid, Marilyn, Tony & Linda, and Doug & Michele
Therefore, as God’s chosen people, holy and dearly loved, clothe yourselves with compassion, kindness, humility, gentleness and patience.
Bear with each other and forgive whatever grievances you may have against one another. Forgive as the Lord forgave you. And over all these virtues put on love, which binds them all together in perfect unity.
Let the peace of Christ rule in your hearts, since as members of one body you were called to peace. And be thankful. – Colossians 3:12-15
Worksheet #13
Topic #13 – Forgiveness Notes
Third Option – The Forgiveness Process
Third Option – Grief
Forgiveness vs. Bitterness